The idea of writing “No Sorry” arose because I wanted to make it clear to myself and others what gaslighting meant. How does one change the truth to make the other doubt himself? Something everyone has experienced, but it’s still hard to recognize,” she says of the song.
I want to let the listener know how something like this works, that you are not alone and how to get your strength back. At the end of the song I describe in one sentence how the gas operator works: “I will be a victim or a hero, but I am not the culprit.”
Whether the song is about her mother Rachel, it leaves it open. “This is not an account song or an angry song. On the contrary, it means closing this situation, recognizing such patterns and hoping to help others with this.
Roxanne doesn’t want to look back as she approaches her thirties. “I find I’m at a point in my life where I want to look forward. I’ll be turning 30 next year and realize I’ve been in a lot of negativity and shit for the past 10 years. I made my decision to do it differently in my 30s. That means taking choices, but also getting power from the things that shaped me. They form a common thread through the songs I do now.
Roxeanne’s No Sorry will be released on Friday.